What if…

Those two words can be comforting. Like when we discover that we just avoided a possible car accident!






But more often than not we find ourselves saying those words when life throws us a curve.

The what ifs of life have some well-known allies:

  • IF only I had…
  • Why did this have to happen to me?
  • Why is this so hard?


We’ve all experienced it. The what if of:

If only I hadn’t made that choice, or, if I had only known...






Is it possible to look at the moments when life is less than a bed of roses from a different perspective?





What if God allows us to go through deep waters for a reason? Maybe it’s to learn to rely on Him. More importantly, to grow in our relationship with him as our Father.

Have you ever considered that while God could have chosen a myriad of ways to relate to us his favorite title is God the Father?  Why do you suppose that is?

In my experience, men aren’t often known for their stellar performance in their role as fathers (me included). So, why would God choose to have us call him our Father?  You know, like in the Lord’s Prayer. “Our Father which art in Heaven...”


Admittedly, many men and women struggle to draw near to God based on their past negative experiences with an earthly father.





But, maybe we have not truly grasped why God wants us to see him as our Father.


If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! Matthew 7.11. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew+7.11&version=NIV


One thing is sure, it wasn’t his plan B to cover up for poor male parenting. It was his Plan A from the very beginning. Listen to how Paul describes it in Ephesians one.

Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.  Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love  he[b] predestined us for adoption to sonship[c] through Jesus Christ. Eph. 1. 2-4. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+1.2-4&version=NIV

Did you catch it? His plan was to receive us as sons and daughters even before Creation, even before Adam’s Fall.  When you and I embrace salvation through the sacrifice of His Son on the cross we are welcomed into a relationship with God as His sons and daughters. God the Father wants to parent us.


So, maybe we have been looking at the what ifs of life from the wrong perspective.

What if when life throws us a curve God is waiting for us to ask him to parent us through the situation? Waiting to teach us lessons only a good parent could.

Lessons like: Patience, tenacity, endurance, trust, stick-to-itiveness, quiet confidence, toughness, serenity in the storm, restful assurance that He knows and cares what we are dealing with.  And best of all, being with us in the midst of the what ifs.

So the next time you find yourself saying: “ If only I knew, or Why am I going through this?”

Stop and ask the Creator of the Universe to be your Father in the midst of it and ask Him, “What am I needing to learn in the midst of this, what if?”



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